@andi I'd start with looking over the TOS of instances you know and trust - many will be based on a few common roots, just with local variations, so it might not take all that long. Moderation's a part of it, of course, especially if there may be large numbers involved - a good set of guidelines and rules is meaningless if they don't actually apply.
@porsupah That's helpful, thanks. I was thinking earlier about BOFA and how that died due to poor moderation. The tech side is the easy part IMO; while I don't foresee any problems when it's mainly my close friends, we absolutely have to have moderation and visible policies if I intend my project to scale to the size of something like FetLife.
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